Sometimes like a trifle drop of water, thoughts
sneak into our mind and while we continue to contemplate on it; the realisation
seeks into us and we crash onto the hard reality that the moment is bygone and
will never come back. We move on with life, laugh, smile, pretend as if we are
unaffected but deep inside, the pounding of the heart incessantly goes on. We
remain bruised, remain wounded by our self-inflicted cuts and still put up a
jolly face. This pace of the world’s development, this quick as a lightening
connectivity to anywhere in the world, humans’ ever increasing nerve to
surprise himself with his adventurous passions does not wash out that part of
slowing down and trying to conquer that one emotion we all have a weakness for:
Love. We might be a stone, a nonchalant brooder, a loner, a pretending busy
couch-potato or even a simple day-to-day traveller traversing to meet his
destination but we all are victims, warriors, survivors, rulers, friends and
foes of this emotion called love.
Long has the time gone when normally a next door
neighbour, a classmate would be the subject of love. There was a time when
writing letters was considered sacred and all emotions were poured into it. Times
when you could meet whenever you wanted. It is prevalent now too but Love has
learnt that there are no boundaries. She has learnt that there are no limits
made by humans; no margins set by society that can make it budge. She has
experienced the spicy, fiery flavour of Long Distance relationship. With the
advent of internet and e-mail, it slowly started to make a simple meeting of
two strangers into a serious proposition. They started exchanging mails,
started putting all their emotions, faith into that piece of written
composition. They marvelled at the mere voice that could send tingles down
their spine while talking, started devoting their minds and hearts generously
thinking about their beloved, waited patiently till they would meet next. As if
to boost their love and passion; social networking sites came by. They became adept
in Instant Messaging, Video Conferencing, sending photos, writing their
emotions bare and raw, sharing the basest secrets. When they met, passion and
emotions rode high and they made the most memorable moments of them. All seemed
well. Commitment and communication sore higher than distance in this kind of relationships.
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All until, discrepancies crept in. it started with
the basest of issues like not picking up a call or not replying quick enough.
Sure enough, that was dealt with quick enough and love made them get accustomed
to it. They thought it is such a trivial matter compared to their strong love
and soon enough it WAS a small matter to not pick up calls and not reply to
mails and messages. It is an understatement to mention that people in Long
distance relationship be possessive. Possessiveness is good but when it gets to
an excess, it boomerangs at the very people who put their trust into it. It
hangs on their head as a dagger ready to pierce into their hearts. This marks
the first symptom of Long Distance Relationship (LDR) Syndrome. You demand
minute descriptions of their whereabouts, want to know the sex-ratio of every
place they go, mark boundaries for them on their interaction with the opposite
sex. But this is the first symptom and so it is not paid much heed for “Love
alone Suffices”.
But the next blow is not far away. The irony creeps
in slowly. What was termed cute in the beginning becomes annoying now. The
communication barrier starts to form its wall using all the bricks of fights,
ego, mistrust and misunderstandings. But they continue to remain oblivious to
it; for they are busy building their defences. What was earlier a soothing word
or sentence turns into scorching words now. But yes, still they survive for
love normally in this case is beyond mere touches and kisses; it is beyond
meeting each other and confessing their love all over again. It’s a test of
patience, of faith, of endurance and of sublime adjustments. It is because of
this subconscious rule set that it continues to thrive.
A normal human being should never be rated on the
basis of estimation. He learns quickly and adjusts as quick as a chameleon
camouflages itself. But the insecurity, the feeling of being ignorant of the
other’s whereabouts’ suddenly starts to sink in. The trust that was built in a
matter of few weeks or months starts to crumble down in mere days. The
situations start to change, priorities change and a sudden hollowness starts to
sink in. As Hugh Laurie put in, “Everybody Lies.” so do they! And the
dedication showed in the beginning starts to fade. They sometimes start cheating
for they get tired of seeing people in love around them. Out of insecurity,
they start suspecting on their partners. They give excuses, throw tantrums,
become irrational over illogical things, become over possessive and start
trying to control their partners whom instead they should have been helping to
bloom.
Situations worsen and sours start to itch. The
wounds no longer get healed by those lovable words and everything seems to end.
They seem to be in dire straits of what to do: whether to call off or still
hope. They long for things to get better, they long for those days when they
were careful and apprehensive of the other’s feelings, when things and
reactions were not so obvious but mostly they long for them to be there. But
sadly, more and more issues come up. In this world, where everybody is racing,
the realisation that career is important seems to sink them and that crushes
the relationship.
But even after that, when they call it off; is the
relationship over? The feelings don’t change, the longing to talk and care
doesn’t change. Long after it is gone, the reminiscent of all those dialogs
spoken, of all that was done remains and that continues to freshen up every now
like a passing thought, like a déjà vu! They try to move on, earnestly want to
absorb the advice given to them for their own good but it’s seem as if a curse
has befallen them. It’s like the dust that keeps coming through the window and
forms a layer on the surface no matter how many times you clean it; it just
lies there and when you don’t clean it for a while, it piles up and just like
that: the wounds resurface with itching freshness and all the time that was
taken in healing is lost in seconds.
They say forbidden fruit tastes sweetest. Though LDR
is not forbidden but it does seem to have a “Enter at your own risk” tag. It’s
not about being in one but it’s about having faith and trust in the other
person, being practical and understand the perks and the disadvantages of such
a relationship, being understanding and adjusting to keep the relationship
going and most of all making the other person realise that it is worth the wait.
Nevertheless, sometimes even these are not enough and they are affected by LDR
Syndrome. In that case, they should not loose their faith, not become
pessimistic for just like the few pieces of diamond that is found among rocks;
there are few good people still existing in this world. There have been LDRs which do live despite
everything and that is only because of their undying commitment towards the
other.
For: “Love is a beautiful thing. It comes with hurt,
it comes with pain but there is always sunshine after the rain.”
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