The LDR Syndrome.

Sometimes like a trifle drop of water, thoughts sneak into our mind and while we continue to contemplate on it; the realisation seeks into us and we crash onto the hard reality that the moment is bygone and will never come back. We move on with life, laugh, smile, pretend as if we are unaffected but deep inside, the pounding of the heart incessantly goes on. We remain bruised, remain wounded by our self-inflicted cuts and still put up a jolly face. This pace of the world’s development, this quick as a lightening connectivity to anywhere in the world, humans’ ever increasing nerve to surprise himself with his adventurous passions does not wash out that part of slowing down and trying to conquer that one emotion we all have a weakness for: Love. We might be a stone, a nonchalant brooder, a loner, a pretending busy couch-potato or even a simple day-to-day traveller traversing to meet his destination but we all are victims, warriors, survivors, rulers, friends and foes of this emotion called love.

Long has the time gone when normally a next door neighbour, a classmate would be the subject of love. There was a time when writing letters was considered sacred and all emotions were poured into it. Times when you could meet whenever you wanted. It is prevalent now too but Love has learnt that there are no boundaries. She has learnt that there are no limits made by humans; no margins set by society that can make it budge. She has experienced the spicy, fiery flavour of Long Distance relationship. With the advent of internet and e-mail, it slowly started to make a simple meeting of two strangers into a serious proposition. They started exchanging mails, started putting all their emotions, faith into that piece of written composition. They marvelled at the mere voice that could send tingles down their spine while talking, started devoting their minds and hearts generously thinking about their beloved, waited patiently till they would meet next. As if to boost their love and passion; social networking sites came by. They became adept in Instant Messaging, Video Conferencing, sending photos, writing their emotions bare and raw, sharing the basest secrets. When they met, passion and emotions rode high and they made the most memorable moments of them. All seemed well. Commitment and communication sore higher than distance in this kind of relationships.

Through the Life span of this world...
What if the World Shuns us...
Will you be there with me...
As my Soulmate and Eternal Support???

All until, discrepancies crept in. it started with the basest of issues like not picking up a call or not replying quick enough. Sure enough, that was dealt with quick enough and love made them get accustomed to it. They thought it is such a trivial matter compared to their strong love and soon enough it WAS a small matter to not pick up calls and not reply to mails and messages. It is an understatement to mention that people in Long distance relationship be possessive. Possessiveness is good but when it gets to an excess, it boomerangs at the very people who put their trust into it. It hangs on their head as a dagger ready to pierce into their hearts. This marks the first symptom of Long Distance Relationship (LDR) Syndrome. You demand minute descriptions of their whereabouts, want to know the sex-ratio of every place they go, mark boundaries for them on their interaction with the opposite sex. But this is the first symptom and so it is not paid much heed for “Love alone Suffices”.

But the next blow is not far away. The irony creeps in slowly. What was termed cute in the beginning becomes annoying now. The communication barrier starts to form its wall using all the bricks of fights, ego, mistrust and misunderstandings. But they continue to remain oblivious to it; for they are busy building their defences. What was earlier a soothing word or sentence turns into scorching words now. But yes, still they survive for love normally in this case is beyond mere touches and kisses; it is beyond meeting each other and confessing their love all over again. It’s a test of patience, of faith, of endurance and of sublime adjustments. It is because of this subconscious rule set that it continues to thrive.

A normal human being should never be rated on the basis of estimation. He learns quickly and adjusts as quick as a chameleon camouflages itself. But the insecurity, the feeling of being ignorant of the other’s whereabouts’ suddenly starts to sink in. The trust that was built in a matter of few weeks or months starts to crumble down in mere days. The situations start to change, priorities change and a sudden hollowness starts to sink in. As Hugh Laurie put in, “Everybody Lies.” so do they! And the dedication showed in the beginning starts to fade. They sometimes start cheating for they get tired of seeing people in love around them. Out of insecurity, they start suspecting on their partners. They give excuses, throw tantrums, become irrational over illogical things, become over possessive and start trying to control their partners whom instead they should have been helping to bloom.

Situations worsen and sours start to itch. The wounds no longer get healed by those lovable words and everything seems to end. They seem to be in dire straits of what to do: whether to call off or still hope. They long for things to get better, they long for those days when they were careful and apprehensive of the other’s feelings, when things and reactions were not so obvious but mostly they long for them to be there. But sadly, more and more issues come up. In this world, where everybody is racing, the realisation that career is important seems to sink them and that crushes the relationship.

But even after that, when they call it off; is the relationship over? The feelings don’t change, the longing to talk and care doesn’t change. Long after it is gone, the reminiscent of all those dialogs spoken, of all that was done remains and that continues to freshen up every now like a passing thought, like a déjà vu! They try to move on, earnestly want to absorb the advice given to them for their own good but it’s seem as if a curse has befallen them. It’s like the dust that keeps coming through the window and forms a layer on the surface no matter how many times you clean it; it just lies there and when you don’t clean it for a while, it piles up and just like that: the wounds resurface with itching freshness and all the time that was taken in healing is lost in seconds.

They say forbidden fruit tastes sweetest. Though LDR is not forbidden but it does seem to have a “Enter at your own risk” tag. It’s not about being in one but it’s about having faith and trust in the other person, being practical and understand the perks and the disadvantages of such a relationship, being understanding and adjusting to keep the relationship going and most of all making the other person realise that it is worth the wait. Nevertheless, sometimes even these are not enough and they are affected by LDR Syndrome. In that case, they should not loose their faith, not become pessimistic for just like the few pieces of diamond that is found among rocks; there are few good people still existing in this world. There have been LDRs which do live despite everything and that is only because of their undying commitment towards the other.

For: “Love is a beautiful thing. It comes with hurt, it comes with pain but there is always sunshine after the rain.”

Abolish Racism and Honour Equality!

All of us have read of our rich culture, of India’s rich heritage, read about the amount of gold we had, are aware of our past glory of acquiring the numerous resources then unknown to the outside world. And yet we are a developing nation now. Our cities are termed as being highly polluted, our standards inhuman, our means wrong and our economic growth hampered while on the other hand those nations which looted our wealth are the developed nations. Have we ever thought why it is so? Ever given a penny for thoughts as to where the huge amount of waste actually goes that is 

generated by the developed nations which are so clean and tidy?

Environmental Racism --- a term coined to define such injustice which involves inequality of standards among nations. It refers to the geographic relationships between environment degradation and low-income or minority communities. It can be defined as a kind of racism between the developed nations and the developing ones. It is a racism which is grasping us all in its poisonous claws. The waste produced in the developed nations are dumped in the developing nations degrading the environment of that developing nation in the progress and then grumbling of its unhygienic conditions and its backwardness. These wastes which are by no means harmless pollute the environment, spread diseases and degrade the environment but the developed nations belittle their hand in this heinous crime and point fingers at the developing nation of being a threat to the world.

It all started in the 1980s when in Warren Country of South Carolina, USA filed a report against dumping of toxic wastes by companies and thus degrading its environment. Thereafter various reports have been issued, various cases filed all for the justice of environment. Uneven environmental procedures, uneven environmental impacts, intentional targeting and dumping wastes in minority communities where people are not so affluent and not aware of their rights or insufficient of environmental amenities are most susceptible areas of environmental racism. Thereafter, Chicago, Pennsylvania, Dickson in USA; Guiyu, China; Bhopal, India and numerous have all have been subjected to improper disposal of wastes. These places being not so developed have been the disposal centre of wastes and in turn have degraded their environment.

But sanity has not become extinct. While there is still time, people have become aware of the larger picture. Drafts and acts have come up. Large companies which do not actually give a heed to these grave issues are being combated with public hearings, meetings with company representatives, legislations and lawsuits. Waste reduction should be a top most priority as the capacity of this world is limited. Just dumping of goods at the garbage place does not make them disappear. Discarding electronic goods at such an alarming rate amounts to the huge e-waste generated. Instead of blindly and shortsightedly dumping such goods, one should give a thought to the outcome of it. E-wastes generated by the whole world is generally dumped in India, China and Pakistan where due to improper machinery and facility, they are not safely disposed of. This results in various diseases, mutations and degradation of the environment. The developed nations should be responsible for their own wastes and try and disarm their wastes in their own countries instead of harming developing nations of Africa and Asia. They should look beyond the ‘monetary-benefit’ and think of the larger picture which involves the whole world. This way, environmental racism can be washed off the face of the world and a greener; less polluted world can be lived in.

Environment and Humans are intricately intertwined. Realise it and Abolish the Racism!

“Judge not by colour: For the darkest colour may radiate the most illuminated Light.

  Judge not by creed:  For the Lowest creed may be the most Educated.
  Judge not by race:    For the most humble and unknown races may change History.
  Judge not by living standards:  For they are the Fathers’ of Civilization.”

True Love vs True Friends!!!

True Friends are in deep Contrast to True Love...

True love might Ditch you once, twice or even more than that...

But true friends will stick to you like Fevicol..
Like a rock they will provide you Eternal support;
No matter you need it or not.

They won't mind your continuously ignoring them,
Which is like the turbulent waves dashing against them!!!
They will forget it the same instant you look up to them...

Choose Wisely, Live Freely!! :D :D

True love is unconditional, beyond everything,
But Nowadays, more or less;
It's quite shallow.
You have to be extremely lucky to experience and more so to cherish it.

It's my earnest request to all:
Those basking in the glory of true love;
To not forget your true friends.

Because someday or the other
You will return unto them
As man returns unto dust!!!

The Reservation Tank!

In a population of 121 crore where another crore goes nameless, where the government is falling prey to one scam after another, where the average person is busy in finding his pursuit of happiness, where in the name of progress, we are actually hitting the reverse gear --- RESERVATION is a sought after word. From reservation of a bed at childbirth to a reservation of a seat in school, from reservation of a heart to live happily-ever-after to reservation in being able to enjoy rights; reservation is so deeply embedded into our veins that knowingly or unknowingly we are a victim of it. It does not come with neon signs displaying it's features but we humans, succumb to our weakness and shortcomings and are invariably attracted to it. But the type of reservation that pinches humans the most is the RESERVATION OF SEATS ON THE BASIS OF CASTE AND CREED!

Since time immemorial, making margins and setting a border of everything has been a norm. The Vedas mention the reservation of posts by different categories of people. But at that time, a person’s karma not caste was the benchmark of reservation. A person’s achievements, his deeds, his actions were taken into account while deciding on reservation. But sadly, over the centuries, while complying to mans’ selfish self-centered thoughts and needs, the definition went for a total conversion from having defined on the basis of actions to being defined on the basis on caste and creed. Starting from the original four castes which were actually made on the basis of actions and occupations, it branched and re-branched into numerous smaller divisions. Slowly, different religions started thriving; different tribes came up, different beliefs surfaced which differentiated one human being from another. Similar things, such as humanity, the same blood flow, brotherhood took a back seat. As time passed by, with the various invasions that took place in India, different sections of people got a better hold on others at some point or other. Complexities increased, sections of people, some castes, creeds started being deprived of basic rights. Rulers such as Aurangzeb imposed jaziya which infuriated the Hindus to a unexplainable extent. His decision of destroying the Bamiyan Buddhas long back the Taliban actually did it was a clear sign of religious tolerance. Such actions done with shortsightedness provided the base for the need to provide reservation, so that all sections of society got the chance to enjoy the right to equality.

Several laws came up, several amendments were done in the existing ones, social activists pledged to help them. But, does the present scenario actually depict a picture of equality? Are the people who really need reservation able to enjoy it? The government in its lust for eternal power comes up with false promises coated with an emotional, religious tinge to woo the common man. And this common man is so fickle-minded as to be swayed by it. Quota for muslims, quota for the backward classes, quota for SC/ST is grudgingly permissible but what about quota for the higher castes? In this mad race for power, they tend to overlook those who fall under the general category. That general category which accommodates all- from rich to poor, from honest to dishonest, from culturally rich to culturally poor. That general category, which is not looked after, which has to bear all the injustices done to it silently. That general category, which has no special privileges to enjoy, no special laws made exclusively for it, no exemptions made on it's very status of being "general". 

Say it and do it Fearlessly for if you are right, there is nothing in the world that can stop YOU!!!

So far, so good. If the general category were well off, the case would have been different. But sadly, the truth voices another opinion. People in general category are poor but they are deprived of all those privileges what their counterparts belonging to SC/ST enjoy. The condition is worse for those in the education line. People belonging to SC/ST with lesser marks get lucky while those belonging to general category are forced to be satisfied with what they sometimes do not deserve. The general category is content with this ordeal even. But what bothers it is the malpractices that are quite rampant. Corruption with its fangs poisons the very identify of a person. People not belonging to the creamy layer are rarely hesitant in changing their social status. They hesitate in telling others about it but are never behind claiming for the icings of the Privilege cake. the government leaves no stone in playing with human emotions and is always on the lookout of a chance to play vote bank politics. What about those who are not rich, who do not have the basic amenities of life and belong to the general category? 

A reservation made on the basis of caste does not actually signify the progress or the generosity of a nation, of a government. It is when all sections of society actively participate in any project involving national interest can the purpose of reservation be fulfilled. Instead of making reservations on the basis of caste, it should be done on the basis of one's per capita income, it should be done transparently and corruption should not have any chance to surface on it. Only then can we actually implement the most important Fundamental Right ---  The Right to Equality.

Voicing every true Indian's dream:

“No Preference, no Difference --- Just Equality!”

Save Humanity!

Quoted from the famous film 3 Idiots, "Oye Champ, tu andar hii reh bhai; bahar bohot circus hai!" and unquoted. The present situations are nothing less than that! The ring master is this patriarchal society which no matter how much advancement in science is as savage as it was in the primal times. The whip they use is this barbarians in the form of male race and at the other end of this whip stands the WOMEN. The very woman who conceives them in their womb, suffers nine months to show them the light of this world, goes to no ends just to see a big bright smile on her child's face, gives up her voice, her interests, her passions just to comply with the society that she lives in. She sacrifices all her desires just to keep the roof above her head intact, just to keep the society at bay and not end up being called an outcast, a characterless woman.

But is that actually fair? Does complying with the interests earn her any prize worthy of being showcased? Do others even acknowledge her sacrifice? All that she earns is smirks, lewd comments, sly glances, mocks, thrashings and in graver cases --- molestations and rapes. They said, a woman should be properly dressed and maintain decorum to avoid been taken advantage of! While they get the freedom to wear whatever they want, go wherever they want, they restricted their creators to a closed circle. If a woman tries to find any loopholes through this strong thick wall and so much as just peeps her head through she is severely punished. Her self-respect, her dignity is played with. There is always a devil lurking in the dark waiting to pounce on her and satisfy his libido, his primal desires. Is it the fault of the woman that she dared to peep her head into what she has a right to or the man's who forgets his civilized state and gives in to his primal instincts?

Earlier they said rape can be stopped if women wore full-sleeved covered from head-to-toe dresses. They stated that if a woman remains within the four-walls of her house and does not put a foot outside it, does not take a stand in things in which she is entitled to, she will remain safe. But what answer do they have for this barbaric, disgusting rape of a five year old girl? What instinct of man would allow him to do such a deed if not he is a mad, insane wild animal? Who would dare to insert candles, wax into the vaginal tract of a minor girl who is not even aware of what is going on with her if not for a mentally unstable person? Do they have any answer for this? Do they realize the gravity of the situation?

As usual the protests are on. Candle marches, silent protests, agitated marches, burning of effigies have again taken a ride upscale only to die after a month or so. Long discussions are taking place at every nook and corner, committees are being made, laws are being passed, speedy arrests of the accused is done... But to what avail? Does this change the very fact, the harsh truth that there are a lot more evils out there roaming freely and at any point of time might make any female race a prey to his poisonous glare and interest. Apart from doing just the above, there is a lot more to be done. Apart from just discussing, we need to take a stand for what we really believe. Apart from making a committee we need to see to it that the outcomes are correctly implemented, the laws are strictly executed and followed and stringent punishment given to that individual who is incapable of giving respect to that race he owes his world to!

But, just like a silver lining; there exists a section of male figures who still have a little bit of humanity left in them. Men, who are disgusted with themselves, who condemn such acts, who are not so thick-skinned as to remain unaffected by it. Men who say they would better turn gay because they feel they don't deserve the bliss called "Women"! Men who feel helpless over this unending situation, who self-accuse themselves of being a culprit because a major section of their race is wrong. It's because of this slight grim hope that lingers on that we are still breathing. Men do not need to turn gay, they just need to control themselves and act instinctively, for I am sure that no man's instincts would allow him to do such a barbaric act.

"You might not be able to change the world, but you can create a difference." The sense of a conscience is a strong one. If only you can condemn such acts and those who think on the wrong lines, the initiation of restoring humanity is done. This is enough to call you as a saint as far as "male species" go!!!

Arise, Awake and Lead!!!

Mahatma Gandhi said and I quote,"Be the change you want to see in this world." and I unquote. Change is inevitable and is invariably the only constant thing in today's illusionary world. We all love changes, it gives us a break from the monotonous humdrum of our lives. But is always the change for the better? Is the change always accompanied by a better future for that exposed individual to that particular change? 65 years after Independence and we are still enough fickle-minded to be allured by people who are not enough dedicated and committed to the oaths they take.

India boasts of having the largest democracy in the world. It holds its head high over the fact of having the longest constitution. But how many of you actually know even the basic qualities that should be in an Indian that are mentioned in The Preamble? Are you all cent percent secular, sovereign, social, maintain fraternity at all points of time with all sorts of Individuals without discrimination? An average individual cannot help being biased at some point or other. We, Indians are emerging as the new superpower of today's world. Being a part of G-20, BRIC, having nuclear power at our dispense is not a small thing. But that covers only a mere 5-10% of India's 121 crore crowd. What about them, the people who supposedly vote their nominees to govern their very own country?

Statistics say that 60% of the entire middle class doesn't vote. Not because they don't have voter ID cards -- which is also a considerable point but because they are the only "sane" people to not commit the mistake of electing people who just fatten their pockets with our money. The main vote goes from the people below and above the middle class. Or is it actually a vote? I seriously doubt! You all will be well versed with the clashes between opposing parties, well versed with the fact that they are forced to cast their vote in favour of a certain nominee though they may or may not want the person to be elected.

But this very middle class needs to change its perspective. this "sanity" of itself does go a long way in shaping the ineffective government. Their mentality of thinking that a single sincere vote will be ineffective has to be changed. The masses have given up hope that good will ever be done to the common. Its true, money and power empowers all sense of clarity, sincerity in maximum cases. But its not the last word! Rome was not built in a day. France did not become a republic without that single vote casted, Hitler did not come to unquestioned supreme power without that single vote in his favour. The VETO power of every citizen of the country if is righteously attended to; the day will not be far when we the very humble, slightly pessimistic Indians won't regain our former glory, our erstwhile respect from the critics. If the small things are attended to, the bigger picture will fall into place.

You, The very people of India " Arise, awake and stop not still the goal is reached." Cast your vote to the most competent, the most dedicated; one who won't be greedy for money but for respect from its nominators. Do your bit towards the betterment of the society, think rationally and not partially. Do not afraid to give voice to your opinions, your thoughts. You might be martyred, you might not be paid heed to, but if your intentions are noble --- you will get one patient listener who will ponder over your point. Change for the better is not far if you take the initiative. You might not be able to change the world, but you can create a difference!!!

JAI HIND!!!

Freedom Weds Restriction!!! :( :/ :|

Marcus Antonius, you have passed your hypocrite genes all the way to the modern society! Was Strangely reminded of you today. How did you manage to keep such a double-faced character to such an esteem level that it took quite a long time to recognize you?????

We, the citizens of India are independent yet chained to the decrees of Restriction's slaves. On one hand we boast of being a secular nation, an independent nation encouraging people to take up research work, to be *innovative*, lamenting of our failure at the world stage; on the other hand we chuck out ideas of the enthusiasts like being in slavery without any ideas or aspirations. You love to make people knowledgeable, love to train them; but all you want from them is mere slavery. A form of slavery where you can neither speak your ideas nor be able to convince people that for an amateur its a huge leap.

The institute boasts of lots of research works. It asks students to be innovative, to think on new ideas. While the idea is rather slogging for most of the students, the very few who get en-thrilled by it and want to work ahead, the road is not easy. The introductory class gives wings to a budding students' dreams, makes him feel that "yes, i can work on my ideas here. My ideas will be encouraged here" --- but mind you; this is an illusion. The student is given the freedom to choose from three luring fields of defining oneself --- survey, research, review. The student chooses research based, starting to already day-dream of making it a perfect one and getting some recognition and also gain some valuable practical knowledge. Little does he know that it is a delusion, a mere trap by the teacher to make him enthusiastic and then shatter his dreams like glass. Meanwhile, the student using his limited imagination and knowledge comes up with some topics which are termed as being repeated by the teacher. Not losing hope, he jumps to the survey option and volunteers to work hard to gain a respectable survey paper. But the teacher is hell bent on making him do only the review paper. And the Institute boasts of giving full freedom to the students.

So, if all the teacher wants is a review paper why does he gives freedom to the students of choosing??
In this hypo critic world of changing perceptions, where do the students stand. On one hand they are given Freedom; on the other hand Restriction stands tall. In midst of this, the students in great dilemma are almost trampled to death.

Freedom has committed a grave mistake by marrying Restriction. Yes, freedom should not be without conditions, its true so as to keep a check on its outgrowth, but it should not receive bribes from Restriction to limit its boundaries before its optimum level. One should keep a balance on both of them not form a see-saw of them. So, its a message to my patient readers who bore with my grievances to keep a thought in mind:::

"Those who deny freedom to others deserve it not for themselves!!!"